You found out weeks or months ago. You can't think straight, you can't stop asking questions, and everything you do seems to make it worse.
Introducing:
Where Did Our Love Go?
An information packed, easy-to-consume, online video programme designed specifically for those who are navigating the turbulent months of infidelity recovery after D-Day (Discovery Day), for you to consume in private.
Included: 45 minutes of private coaching with Pete when you finish the programme*
Not a sales call. Real coaching. Real value.
(*value £250, Book your 45 minutes with Pete within 90 days of joining.)
~ START WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR SPOUSE ~
You'll get instant access by email. Start watching within minutes.
Approx $670
14-day guarantee.
Start it. If it doesn't help you, tell us and we'll refund you in full.
Where Did Our love Go? is a short video programme which you can follow together or individually, online, and in your own time. You will have life-time access to the online content and a Free 45-minute coaching session with Pete upon completion.
So what's involved ?
Nikki and I teach the vital importance of unconditional love for your happiness and your relationship. They provide this short video programme to educate, support and guide you to understand a higher and more fulfilling way to live together and recover from the devastating impact of infidelity.
Much of what we teach runs counter to the standard advice — and for good reason. A great deal of what you'll find online and on social media will harm you more in these early months.
The Where Did Our Love Go? programme content is delivered in the form of:
12 videos for the Betrayed Spouse:
For the Betrayed Spouse…
Understanding what's happening to you:
- Why your spouse had their affair — the real root cause, not the one you've been told
- Why this hurts as much as it does, and the only thing that genuinely stops the pain
- Why they can't seem to show the remorse you need to see
- What to do with the anger, the urge for revenge, and the paranoia that won't switch off
- Why trust feels impossible right now — and what has to happen before it isn't
The other people:
- Your feelings about the affair partner, explained
- Why contacting the affair partner will cost you more than it gives you
- What to tell your children and how your handling of this will affect them for the rest of their lives
- Who to turn to among parents, family and friends — and the risks of choosing wrongly
What actually helps:
- Why this isn't about you, however much it feels like it is
- Sex: why you may want it, why you may not, and why either is normal
- Counselling, therapy or coaching — what actually works at this stage, and what to be careful of
11 videos for the Straying Spouse:
Each video is around 15 minutes in length and together they provide the roadmap you need to navigate the early pitfalls after DDay.
For the Spouse who strayed…
Understanding yourself:
- The real root cause of every affair — including yours, whether or not you recognise it yet
- Why the lying causes more damage than the affair itself — and why coming completely clean is better for both of you
- Why your spouse will find the betrayal and lies harder to recover from than the affair
- Why you're frightened too, and what to do with that
- How to be humble without losing yourself — and why the state of your marriage was not the cause
The other people:
- Your affair partner: why what you're feeling isn't love, why relief can look like a lack of remorse, and why all contact has to end completely
- What to tell your children — and why this is so important
- Who you can turn to when it feels like nobody is on your side
- Facing your children's contempt
What actually helps:
- The fine line between honesty and too much detail — and how to respond
- Taking full responsibility, and what doing "whatever it takes" actually looks like in practice
- Changing your environment and what is actually important for repair
- Why willpower alone won't hold — and what real support looks like.
❣️Where Did Our Love Go? is for you if: you found out in the last year, you're still in the turbulence, and you don't yet know what's going to happen.
❣️It isn't for you if: discovery was years ago and you've settled into distance or resentment. The damage then is different and needs different work — talk to us instead.
Purchase Where Did Our Love Go? today and you will receive:
Lifetime Unlimited Access
You'll get instant access by email. Start watching within minutes.
Approx $670
Approx 2 x monthly payments of $400
14-day guarantee.
Start it. If it doesn't help you, tell us and we'll refund you in full.
Hi, I'm Pete Uglow, Marriage Recovery Coach & Mentor and I'm pictured here with my wife of 39 years, Nikki.
We've been through infidelity too and we completely rebuilt our marriage with unconditional love nearly 17 years ago.
Since then we have helped over 1,200 couples do the same!
What if you're the only one trying?
Most people who come to us start alone.
Perhaps your spouse won't talk about it. Perhaps they're defensive, or ashamed, or insisting it's over and there's nothing left to discuss. Perhaps they've promised to do something about it and then done nothing. Perhaps you haven't even told them you're looking.
Start anyway.
You'll have both sets of videos — the ones for the betrayed spouse and the ones for the spouse who strayed. Watch your own. Then watch theirs. Many people tell us that understanding what is actually going on inside the other person is where things first begin to shift.
Because so much of the damage in these early months isn't caused by the affair. It's caused by what happens next — the questions, the searching, the conversations that spiral at midnight, the people who get told. When one person stops doing the things that make it worse and starts responding differently, the dynamic between two people changes. Not always quickly. But it changes.
We won't pretend you can control your spouse, or carry your marriage entirely on your own. What we will say, after sixteen years and more than 1,200 couples, is this: you almost certainly have more influence, more clarity and more choices than you can see from where you're standing right now.
And if your spouse comes to it later — in three weeks or three years — it's here waiting. Lifetime access, for both of you.
This Works!
But don't just take my word for it. Here are words from a few of the people who completed the programme ...
(Names abbreviated and details withheld to protect our clients' privacy.)
"Thanks Pete & Nikki, this programme was just what I needed at the lowest and most shameful time of my life. It was the start of an amazing journey."
Matt L. (United Kingdom)
"This course was so easy to digest and understand. Everything finally made sense! Thanks so much."
Brett M. (United States)
"I know how emotionally bruised and scared I felt when I stumbled across your website and this course. I feel like it was just the right thing at just the right time. I'm so grateful."
Beth D. (United States)
"I just wanted to say thank you for your program. It was exactly what I needed and gave me so much hope. My husband even watched the videos and liked what he was learning. That in itself is incredible!"
Linda R. (Australia)
Questions people often ask us before they start:
My spouse refuses to take part. Is this still worth £500?
Yes — and most people do start alone. You get the full programme, both sets of videos, and your coaching hour with Pete whether or not your spouse ever watches a single one. If they join you later, they'll find it there.
I'm the one who had the affair. Is this for me?
It is. Eleven of the videos are written for you specifically — about why it happened, what honesty actually requires, how much detail to give, and what taking real responsibility looks like day to day. Nothing you've done will shock us. Pete has been where you are.
Is it private?
Completely. You watch on your own device, in your own time, with no group, no calls and nobody else knowing you're there. Your coaching hour with Pete is private too. We protect our clients' anonymity in everything we publish — which is why you won't find their names or faces on this page.
How long does it take?
Twenty-three videos of around fifteen minutes each — roughly six hours in total. Some people work through it in a weekend. Most take a few weeks, watching what they need when they can manage it. There's no schedule and no deadline. You have lifetime access, and we'd encourage you to watch it more than once; you'll hear different things the second time.
We've already tried counselling and it didn't help. How is this different?
We hear this constantly, and it's usually for one of two reasons.
The first is timing. In the first months after discovery you are in crisis. What you need right now isn't to explore the history of your marriage — it's to know what to do this week. What to ask and what not to. What to tell the children. Whether to tell anyone else. How to stop the 2am conversations that leave you both further apart than when they started. This programme is about those decisions, because they're the ones that do lasting damage when they go wrong.
The second is that a good deal of conventional advice makes infidelity recovery harder, not easier. Being encouraged to ask for full disclosure of every detail. Being told to express all your anger. Being treated as though the affair was caused by problems in the marriage. We teach the opposite on all three, and we'll explain exactly why.
We're not therapists and we don't pretend to be. We're coaches who have lived this ourselves and spent sixteen years learning what actually helps couples through it — over 1,200 of them. One of the couples we worked with had been told by a therapist twenty years earlier that they didn't belong together. She's actually a licensed family and addiction therapist herself, and she describes what she found here as "the missing piece I was never taught in all my training and years of practice."
If counselling didn't help, it doesn't mean your marriage can't be restored. It may simply mean you haven't yet had the right help at the right moment.
Are you ready?
JOIN UP TODAY TO GET STARTED IMMEDIATELY!
You'll get instant access by email. Start watching within minutes.
Approx $670
Approx 2 x monthly payments of $400
14-day guarantee.
Start it. If it doesn't help you, tell us and we'll refund you in full.
