Have you ever read the book ‘Dying To Be Me’ by Anita Moorjani?

It describes her Near Death Experience (NDE) and how she becomes aware that the only meaningful thing in life is unconditional love.

NDE experiences usually follow a sudden trauma, like an accident or heart attack, and then the person returns to life after some kind of resuscitation. Anita’s NDE is unique because she returned to life after being riddled with cancer and complete internal organ failure.

In 2006, Anita fell into a deep coma, just short of death. During this coma she was fully aware of herself and what was going on around her. Later she described the people and events in the room with her, down the hall, and even thousands of miles away. These types of observations are normally impossible for someone in a coma.

Most remarkable is her account of how she FELT during her NDE.

I will quote some passages from her book and make some comments:

“I felt free, liberated, and magnificent! . . . I then had a sense of being encompassed by something that I can only describe as pure, unconditional love, but even the word love doesn’t do it justice. It was the deepest kind of caring, and I’d never experienced it before. It was beyond any physical form of affection that we can imagine, and it was unconditional–this was mine, regardless of what I’d ever done. I didn’t have to do anything or behave a certain way to deserve it. This love was for me, no matter what! I felt completely bathed and renewed in this energy, and it made me feel as though I belonged, as though I’d finally arrived after all those years of struggle, pain, anxiety, and fear. I had finally come home.”

I help married couples to understand that unconditional love is the force that connects us all and to implement it for the benefit of their relationship. Love is our natural state, so when we finally find unconditional love, we feel like we’ve come home. It is remarkable that Anita had “never experienced it before.” Sadly, most of us have not. We are surrounded only by conditional approval, fear, and confusion in the world.

Anita goes on to say “Love, joy, ecstasy, and awe poured into me, through me, and engulfed me. I was swallowed up and enveloped in more love than I ever knew existed . . . The feeling of complete, pure, unconditional love was unlike anything I’d known before. Unqualified and nonjudgmental . . . it was totally undiscriminating, as if I didn’t have to do anything to deserve it, nor did I need to prove myself to earn it.”

What utter bliss … to feel so abundantly happy with who she really is.

She continues, “I felt that people had lost the ability to see the magic of life. They didn’t share my wonder or enthusiasm for . . . just being alive. They seemed caught up in . . . the next thing they had to do, and the next thing. It was exactly what I used to do before my NDE. Everyone was so caught up with doing that they’d all forgotten how to just be in the moment.”

Thankfully, the rest of us do not require a near-death experience in order to feel the power of unconditional love. We can create these feelings here and now. You see, unconditional love changes our attitude toward everything.

Feeling so loved, and sharing it with others, is perfection. In these moments, we have no interest in the past or the future. We have no fear of what is going on around us. In fact, unconditional love changes our perspective even of things we once thought horrible….

Anita said, “I found myself with nothing but compassion for all the criminals and terrorists in the world, as well as their victims. I understood in a way I never had before that for people to commit such acts, they must really be full of confusion, frustration, pain, and self-hatred . . . I saw that those who have this particular type of “mental” cancer are treated with contempt in our society, with little chance of receiving any practical help for their condition, which only reinforces their condition. By treating them in this way we only allow the “cancer” in our society to grow. I could see that we haven’t created a society that promotes both mental and physical healing.”

Sounds incredible doesn’t it? So how can we create such a life for ourselves?

We can learn to extend unconditional love within our relationship and our families first, then extend outwards to others. We can learn to be forgiving, truthful, humble, and kind because when people feel loved, they’re not in pain and lose the need to behave in harmful ways. We can learn ourselves how to offer them that gift.

In 2020 I saw so many examples on social media of people being selfless, kind, and caring. The coronavirus brought out the best in many people and they did whatever they could to take the focus off themselves and onto the needs of others, so unconditional love is available to us, we just need to learn how to tap into it.

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